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” Because honestly, while I’m open to diversity in the women that I date, I have found that usually out of 50 quick matches on OKC I might get three black lesbians. So you message them and they don’t respond for a good 2 months.I met up with a hang gliding white lesbian once to see if there could actually be some sort of connection. It was a terrible experience and made me start questioning my dating viability as a whole.This means that they are validated, admired and praised based on how they behave, not on who they are.” So how then can this translate to something as simple as opening oneself up on a dating site?To me it connects to this quote from psychologist Regina Romero: Society expects the African American to handle losses, traumas, failed relationships and the dual oppressions of racism and sexism.
Interestingly enough, most of the faces I saw on those Yahoo profile pics ended up becoming great friends of mine in the black queer community.
The ideology of the “strong black woman” is one strategy that black women have developed to specifically combat shame.
MPH is quick to point out that “What begins as empowering self definition can quickly become a prison…
This is something that, as a whole, many African-Americans have a hard time doing.
When put in dating terms, what that really says is “I don’t want my face appearing on a dating site because then people will think I can’t get a date and trust me, I am too fly for that to be the case.” While I can’t speak for the whole of black lesbians everywhere and while acknowledging that we’re not a monolithic group anyway, I definitely feel connected to what my friend was saying.
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