How to write a good on line dating profile
We couldn’t have done any of this without the help of the data maestros at Match and Ok Cupid: Christian Rudder, cofounder and president of Ok Cupid, and Jim Talbott, director of consumer insights at These guys and their data teams ran queries of all kinds and pulled spreadsheet after spreadsheet of information to try and answer our strange questions.In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old school friends and career networking to ordering takeaways and finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away.So it only seems logical you would use the good old Internet for finding that special someone, too. Sometimes they know you better than you know yourself. After all, it’s not always easy to big yourself up without sounding conceited or (even worse) desperate.But did you know that one in three couples now find love online? A woman I know snagged a boyfriend when she described her ideal job as a combination of circus performer and archaeologist. Unless you know for sure that you only want to meet, say, a nonsmoking Portuguese-speaking dentist, go easy on the list of qualities he must have.
My ad requested a man "financially stable, kinda handsome, who can slow dance, make me laugh, read between the lines." Cast a wide net and edit out the responses. If you're not comfortable putting your picture up online, avoid overselling your appearance with dubious claims like "Sharon Stone look-alike." I started my magazine personal with: "Curvy, almond-eyed writer, fit (good shoulders)...." My husband says he was attracted to the soft sell of the description and the quirky confidence of the assertion. Instead of saying you're funny or well educated or caring, demonstrate that. Finding a date, let alone love, just isn’t easy—even though there are plenty of apps for that.
Users skim profiles looking for a reason to send a message or dismiss (hint: do not mention your mom or exes).
Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?