Internet dating lying about age
For example, e Harmony likes to stress how many members get married as a result of being matched via the service (236 every day, according to one set of data gathered in 2008).
did a survey last year indicating that an impressive 58,500 people had found a partner on the site over a 12-month period — and it still offers a six-month guarantee of ‘finding love’, albeit underlined (understandably) by a 500-word list of conditions. When Time Out magazine ran a cover story offering free online dating for every reader, it dangled a huge metaphorical carrot. But you rarely hear from those who, having failed to find a partner online, back away from the computer shaking their heads at the way the process distorts social conventions and leaves you slightly shell-shocked.
Then there are the men who lie about their age for the very same reason.
From my observations, most under 40 list their true age and unless you’re seeking to start a family and in the baby making years, age doesn’t really matter.
Those words of wisdom still apply, and particularly so if you’re one of those participating in the seemingly eternal worry-go-round of internet dating.
The adverts for such services, featuring blissfully happy couples pushing each other on swings, would have us believe otherwise.
Some men who are in their late 40’s or 50’s & 60’s feel more masculine dating younger women and some women in the same age brackets feel that many men their age or older are duds and lifeless.
After all, when I meet someone in real life whom I like, I tend not to say: ‘Hi, I’m Rhodri, and here’s a list of food I don’t like eating.’ The rules of attraction are just too complex to be held in a database and analysed by a computer.All of them have approached internet dating with the most honourable of intentions: they’re lured by the promise of romance, be it jazz and croissants on Sunday morning, or leaping out of a plane strapped to someone nice. They’d just like someone, but someone hasn’t shown up.The search for love in any context is a lottery, of course. What are the chances of two compatible people turning up in the same place at the same time?There’s a sincerity and straightforwardness in a persons conduct when they are honest and tell the truth.
Even if the facts may hurt, most of us believe honesty is the best policy (unless a woman asks “does this dress make me look fat? Can a lie benefit you when it comes to finding love?
A quick disclosure: I have a couple of dating profiles online. But this isn’t therapy masquerading as a self-pitying article by some bloke in his late-30s — well, not much, anyway.